Thinking About Divorce? 7 Sings that You Might be ReadyOver the years, we have spoken with numerous men and women about the process. Some of them ended their marriages; others did not. If you are on the fence, having a chat with one our Nashville divorce attorneys could help you reach a decision one way or the other, but there are usually some signs that it might be time to divorce.

  1. You are fighting more often than you communicate calmly. If it seems as if the only way you communicate with each other anymore is through fighting and arguing, your marriage is in trouble. Another clue to watch for is the level of anger and hurtful language. There will be disagreements and arguments in every relationship, but when things start to get ugly, and you begin to say things that you later regret, it could be a sign of the loss of affection and caring.
  2. You have lost interest in each other’s lives. You are growing apart. You take separate vacations. At first you thought it was no big deal that you have separate interests, but now it seems as if you have less and less in common, and worst of all, less and less interest in what your spouse is doing. They are spending increasing amounts of time away from home, and you are so busy with your life that you barely notice their absence.
  3. Your marriage relationship is no longer a priority in your lives. You both used to be willing and eager to spend time with each other, to discuss things that are important to you and feel like a team. Now, perhaps, you can go for days without catching up with each other. Maybe you have children that are taking up a lot of your attention. If your marriage is not one of the highest priorities in your life in the way that it once was, you might be heading towards a divorce.
  4. You are constantly trying to change one another. When you find that you are constantly criticizing your partner about their appearance, their habits, opinions and other inconsequential things, you might find that you are really trying to change them (or vice versa). Being in a committed relationship is supposed to feel nurturing and safe, not like you cannot measure up to the other person’s expectations of you. If you are unable to accept your spouse the way they are, and you do not know if you can see yourself being happy with this person for the rest of your life, then you might be ready to start considering a divorce.
  5. You have given up on marriage counseling. All of the talking and the crying and feeling as thought you were put on the spot during counseling sessions is growing old. You feel like you really gave it a try in the beginning, but now you just feel exhausted and frustrated about talking about things that never seem to change or improve.
  6. You suspect (or are sure) that your partner is being unfaithful. Believe it or not, a marriage can survive infidelity. It is not easy, but it can be done. If, however, both parties are not committed to changing whatever drove your spouse to cheat, then nothing will change. Infidelity is very painful but it also completely erodes trust. If that trust cannot be rebuilt, then the marriage cannot last.
  7. You have lost respect for one another. Mutual respect and love is what binds people together. When you have lost respect for your spouse, it is nearly impossible to restore it without time, attention and communication — three things in short supply in a marriage that is on the rocks and heading for divorce.

Did any of those signs look familiar? If you are facing these kinds of challenges in your marriage and you have both lost the will to turn things around, it is probably time to go your separate ways. Talking to a Nashville divorce attorney is a good way to put things into perspective so that you can get a clear picture of what the divorce process entails. Then you can make an informed decision about whether to end your marriage.

Getting a divorce is one of the most significant turning points in a person’s life. The decisions you make during the divorce process will have an impact on the rest of your life so you want to be sure that you have strong legal support possible on your side. We invite you to contact the experienced Nashville legal team at Miller Upshaw Family Law, PLLC to reserve an in-person or video consultation time to answer your questions about your specific divorce case.

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